#My3Things: Positive Parenting Motivator Linky: Week 12
As you know #My3Things is my way to try to value myself and my parenting a bit more, so I’ve created this and a linky for other bloggers to join in with too.
Each week I list three things that have not gone so well that week, three things I want to focus on improving next week, and ending the post with three things I’ve done really well. The reason it’s in this order is because you should always end on a positive!
It’s not about telling yourself off, or criticising, it’s about self improvement and recognising the skills and good things about us which we always ignore. Yes it starts by looking at what wasn’t too good, but this is so you can reflect on why these may have gone wrong and then look at how to avoid this next week- we learn from our mistakes!
The linky is to keep me and you guys motivated- thanks to all those who joined in last week and hope to see you again this week!
If you don’t have time to write a post like this, feel free to link up with a post you’ve written this week showing happy parenting times or achievements!
3 Things That Were Not So Good This Week
- I have been finding it quite difficult to just and play with Chunk as I’ve had a lot on my mind, so have preferred to busy myself with decluttering and chores which I feel guilty about.
- Chunk has been refusing naps despite being shattered, resulting in an even whingier boy around dinner time.
- I’ve not completed as much work as I had hoped this week.
3 Things I Want To Focus On Next Week
- Focussing on the now rather than the past and future, so I can enjoy moments such as playing with Chunk.
- Upcycling some more furniture.
- Starting to plan for my upcoming 30th birthday and Xmas.
3 Things I’ve Done WELL This Week
- I upcycled a coffee table and I adore it!
- I have spent some small pieces of time engaging in some fun play with Chunk to try to make up for the chores I have been doing to distract myself from my thoughts.
- Started to use some cognitive behavioural therapeutic techniques to challenge the way I can think about things, such as learning to stop being so hard on myself about things that weren’t my fault.
6 Comments
Mel
10th October 2014 at 8:39 am
I wish I could make some time for upcycling! I always find upcycled furniture looks great! Enjoy planning your 30th birthday celebrations. #BinkyLinky
Tracy Nixon
10th October 2014 at 9:46 am
I often have huge sorting and clearouts when I feel stressed as not only does it clear my head, but it clears my house too – which makes me feel better. So don;t look at it as a negative thing – think of it as a positive task that you have successfully completed! Well done!
I also use CBT to help me with my thoughs and decisions. A few years back when I became very depressed and withdrawn, my doctor referred me to a CBT specialist and she really helped me to sort of my life. I even bought a reference book to refer to when times get hard. Well done for doing that too! It shows you know how to and are trying to help yourself! 🙂 Enjoy your weekend x
Emily Twin Mummy and Daddy
10th October 2014 at 8:19 pm
I have an upcycling project waiting for me to get my hands on. I just haven't had time to get round to it yet. Thanks for linking up the #BinkyLinky
Mama Herself
10th October 2014 at 9:21 pm
Oh my, the table as well as the drawers. Impressively busy!
Playing is important, of course, but I sometimes think a bit of benign neglect is good for kids too – they can start to find their own way of playing. Of course, this can sometimes not be to your advantage when they [insert child related domestic disaster here].
Plus, it sounds like Chunk is then getting some quality play from you.
Looking forward to your next upcycling project!
Leyla [Thisdayilove]
12th October 2014 at 9:04 am
Can't wait to see your next Upcycled project. Thanks for joining in with Linked
Unknown
12th October 2014 at 3:37 pm
I am so impressed with your upcycling. You really did an amazing job. Keep focusing on your positives 🙂 Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 x