How You Know Without Doubt You’ve Found The Right Person
Many people spend a good chunk of their adult lives “looking for the right person,” but what does that mean? Is there such a thing?
Before entertaining the idea of finding this person, understanding yourself and what you want is important.
It takes two to tango. A relationship can’t exist in isolation. It’s something that grows from two seeds.
Having said that, there are some signs that you’ve found the right person you should look out for:
They Get Behind Everything You Do
Many people believe that relationships put limits on what they can do, but the most successful partners are those who get behind what their lovers want to do.
They don’t see any obligation in the relationship. They just see their role as one of mutual support.
Imagine if you discovered your partner wanted to take a year out to “find themselves” by going on a break, just by themselves. Most partners would feel bad about that because they’d interpret it as a sign that the person didn’t love them.
A supportive partner would probably understand it and think about how they could facilitate it. It sounds like a strange thing to say, but it’s often necessary. It leads to a stronger relationship afterward because each partner feels freer.
They’re Not Just Interested In The Bedroom
For some people, the whole purpose of a relationship is to have sex. And that’s fine. You can have relationships like that short-term.
But finding the right person has to be about your whole character, not just your sex life.
They have to be interested in your emotions, plans for your life, and basic values. A bit like the morning after pill, they need to be there for you when you need them the most!
You’re In Sync With Them
When you’re in a deep relationship, it can sometimes feel like you’re in sync with your partner. You know what they’re thinking and can easily think about what they would do in a given situation.
Synchronicity isn’t just pseudo-science. It’s actually backed up by observations.
Some couples work so in tune with each other that their brains actually wind up as running as one. They are to each other as yin is to yang in Chinese mysticism.
Researchers still don’t know how syncing up actually works in practice, but they think that just sitting next to your partner and cuddling them for fifteen minutes is enough.
After that, you have an intuitive sense of what they want and how they feel!
When You’ve Found The Right Person, You Feel Like You Can Trust Them
We all know what it feels like to get into a relationship with somebody you can’t trust. You’re always watching your back and wondering when the horrors are going to arrive.
But when you’ve found the right person, you don’t feel the same sense of risk. They haven’t beguiled you with their looks or intellect.
Instead, they’ve won you over on an unconscious level. Trusting them feels as natural as walking. It’s just something that happens.
They Respect Your Differences
If we were all the same, it would be boring. There would be very few new ideas and the lack of diversity would send everyone mad.
Some people can get into the habit of believing that both partners need to be the same, which can lead to disaster.
When you’re in a relationship with somebody, you love them for their differences as well as their similarities. It’s what separates you that brings you together.
They Don’t Pressure You To Be Perfect
Healthy people expect good standards of behavior in a relationship, but they don’t pressure you to be the perfect person. That’s just not possible.
They’re happy for you to be “good enough.” And if you’re not sometimes, they’ll let you know.
They Can Make You Laugh At Yourself
Taking yourself too seriously can be a terrible affliction in your life. But having somebody around who can make you laugh at yourself can be a great thing.
It’s all part of a process of “letting go.” They kindly and gently tease you, showing you how other people see you so that you can improve.
How do you know when you have found your person? Would love to hear your comments below!