I’m A Date-Free Zone And Here’s Why…

17th January 2015

If you remember, I became quite the playa last summer and this lasted until Christmas, but something has recently changed…

I suddenly have no interest to date. At all. Seriously!

Now don’t get me wrong I had a great time dating various guys, some were just for fun and others had potential, but now I just don’t feel the desire to get dressed up and go out.

I think I went crazy for a while (funnily enough as I was approaching my thirtieth birthday) and I wonder if I have just got to the point where I’ve exhausted it.

I’ve had hot (and I mean HOT) guys after me recently (yes most a fair bit younger than me, but I’ve always loved the idea of being a cougar) but I just cannot be bothered. I find this bizarre, but also great, because I don’t need to waste time finding sitters so I can go on dates, I don’t need to dress up as I can instead just chill, see friends and get my work done in the evenings. 

Before you say it, no I haven’t recently been hurt by a guy and that’s why I don’t want to date, I’m just bored of it.

So I’ve deleted my dating apps and I feel great!

I just want to concentrate on my son, my work, my home and living my life, which I totally recommend to any girls out there thinking that they need a guy to be complete. YOU DON’T.

I actually find that my life now is so much less stressful (even with a hyperactive little boy!) without a man, which I never thought would be the case a few years ago.

When I look back to my time with sperm donor, I realise that the majority of it was very depressing for me. He caused me a lot of stress, and in a lot of ways he was really hard work (and yes I can be too). The thought of having to deal with a guy who could be lying, talking to me like dirt, going off whenever he feels like it and acting like an immature idiot is not appealing. I’m baffled as to why I kept going back for more, but happy that I got my beautiful son out of that carnage.

Clearly not all guys are like him (praise the Lord) but I genuinely couldn’t give two hoots if one came along or not now, as I like my life. Sure it would be great to have some help with my son, so that I  could have a break (what’s that?) seeing as I work whenever he sleeps or is at nursery, or I get much needed chores done, but I’ve managed for nearly three years and know I can continue to do so.

I believe true happiness is loving yourself and creating a life you can love, whether a man is in it or not. If a guy comes along that would be a bonus, but my singledom is definitely not going to stop me from having the great, happy, love-filled life I currently have.

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  • kateonthinice

    17th January 2015 at 7:15 pm

    'Well said!

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    18th January 2015 at 5:16 pm

    I loved reading this. So true and very inspirational.

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    18th January 2015 at 5:18 pm

    So true! This is very inspirational. Thank you for posting this.

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    18th January 2015 at 5:19 pm

    So true! This was very inspirational. Thank you for posting this.

  • Martyn Kitney

    19th January 2015 at 7:36 pm

    I am in exactly the same boat. Spent the last year single with the odd date here or there. But if anything it was to dress up and go out. Part of me is in complete agreement…no stress no hassle and no worry. Be comfortable with who I am and focus on my strengths etc. Part of me would obviously like to date again as there are a lot of positives but for the moment I'm not looking for one. If miss right came knocking then I might not just close the door but I'm not looking and focusing elsewhere so know that's not going to happen! True happiness is definitely loving yourself, for me, that alone is a big enough thing to focus on! Lovely post!

  • Unknown

    20th January 2015 at 8:37 pm

    Love the quotes – very inspirational and important to remember!

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